01.03.08
I Found Prince Charming, So What's The Problem?
Dear Sage,
I think I’ve met the perfect guy - he’s educated, funny, and believe it or not, he’s not a commitment-phobe. That said, why am I still doubting that he’s “the one”? – Lisa A., Phoenix, AZ
Great question, Lisa! We asked Dr. Luann Robinson Hull, a real-life relationship pro for a few tips to help you better understand these doubts.
Take Inventory: So you both like Thai food, but is Prince Charming truly compatible when it comes to career, values and determination? Try This: Jot down your core values and what’s essential for you in a life partner. Then ask him to do the same. Do your two lists match up?
Be Discriminating: If you find that your two lists don’t match up (and that’s okay!), remind yourself that choosing your lifelong mate is no time for political correctness. This is the time to be discriminating - even picky. If you’re concerned about your differences, be honest with yourself and your partner and speak up.
The Beauty Within: Shift your perspective to focus on your role in the relationship. Be your own greatest admirer, instead of depending on Prince Charming to fill that role. Remember: You must love yourself in order to truly and deeply love someone else (see BeThree's past story on this topic here). Maybe you’ll find that your doubts about the relationship are, in fact, stemming from doubts about yourself.
Need more advice? Check out Dr. Luann Robinson Hull's website here where you can schedule a virtual personal session.
I think I’ve met the perfect guy - he’s educated, funny, and believe it or not, he’s not a commitment-phobe. That said, why am I still doubting that he’s “the one”? – Lisa A., Phoenix, AZ
Great question, Lisa! We asked Dr. Luann Robinson Hull, a real-life relationship pro for a few tips to help you better understand these doubts.
Take Inventory: So you both like Thai food, but is Prince Charming truly compatible when it comes to career, values and determination? Try This: Jot down your core values and what’s essential for you in a life partner. Then ask him to do the same. Do your two lists match up?
Be Discriminating: If you find that your two lists don’t match up (and that’s okay!), remind yourself that choosing your lifelong mate is no time for political correctness. This is the time to be discriminating - even picky. If you’re concerned about your differences, be honest with yourself and your partner and speak up.
The Beauty Within: Shift your perspective to focus on your role in the relationship. Be your own greatest admirer, instead of depending on Prince Charming to fill that role. Remember: You must love yourself in order to truly and deeply love someone else (see BeThree's past story on this topic here). Maybe you’ll find that your doubts about the relationship are, in fact, stemming from doubts about yourself.
Need more advice? Check out Dr. Luann Robinson Hull's website here where you can schedule a virtual personal session.
